5 ways to create a positive mindset…

People as a rule try to be more positive in whatever way they can. Whether it is a new year or not, people do try to create a positive outlook in life. But why do we find ourselves reverting back to negativity? It is not for lack of trying. The intentions are there but it is the follow through that seems to be lacking. It is easy to revert back to negative thought patterns. However, when we use these tools I’m about to share with you, positivism becomes a natural response. All you need to do is be mindful of these 5 things in your life.

Here are 5 easy to do and sure ways to create a permanent positive outlook which you can implement into your life right here, right now.

1. Gratitude

The best way to shift your perspective from negative thinking to positive thinking is gratitude. The most popular study on gratitude is currently being conducted by Robert Emmons, Ph.D. at UCDavis. There now exists empirical evidence that gratitude can shift our health by shifting our moods and our emotions.

Start a gratitude journal. This is a great way to teach your kids gratitude too. Every night write down 3 things you are grateful for that happened during the day. This will turn your focus from negative to positive instantly. This exercise teaches your brain to focus on what you have rather than what you do not have. The result is, you will attract more positive things, incidences and thought patterns into your life.

Just a piece of advice though: When things start going well, please continue doing the practice of writing down 3 things you are grateful for every day. Most people stop when things go well and wonder why they are in a roller coaster ride. Continue this practice and create amazing shifts in your life now.

2. Love yourself

There is only one secret to happiness and it is self-love. The only way you can achieve true happiness is by learning to love yourself and accept yourself purely and unconditionally. This means, no to self-judgment, no to self-sabotage, no to false humility. False humility is putting yourself down in order to lift others up.

With every action, every re-action and every thought, ask yourself: Am I honoring myself? Am I accepting myself? Am I judging myself?

You will find that half the time you are your worst judge. Remember that if you do no wrong, you are no longer a human being. Accept your humanity. You will make mistakes and those mistakes are an opportunity to learn and evolve. Making mistakes does not make you flawed, it makes you human. A person who practices self-love will ask himself or herself the following questions: What made me react that way and how can I react differently next time? What did I learn from this? What about the other person irritated me and how does this reflect on me being that way?

This way you focus on your own growth. Remember you have all the power in the world to create shifts within yourself, but zero power to change another person.

3. Blame no more

If you catch yourself blaming another for anything that is not going well in your life, stop immediately. There is no one to blame. Everything that is going on in your life is a direct reflection of your relationship with yourself. There is nothing outside of you that is making you miserable or happy for that matter. You are creating all of this and you and you alone have the capacity to maintain your own happiness or to release yourself from misery. Please do not give anyone or anything the power to make you happy or miserable. First, it isn’t true happiness but on the upside it isn’t true misery either. Second, it is all drama. When you learn to live without drama, you learn accountability. Questions you ask yourself evolve from: Why me? to What did I do to create this? What do I need to learn from this? What is the lesson here?

4. Forgive

When you truly forgive, you release the incident, people and circumstances from ever causing you pain again. Not that you forget the incident, you release the incident from your space because you have already learned your lesson. This is based on the knowing that life gives us people and incidences as experiences from which to evolve into the highest version of ourselves. We have a choice. We either choose to grow or we choose to remain bitter and wounded. Would you actually give someone that much power over you? If someone has hurt you so much that it paralyzed you into feeling, why would you give that person that much power? Whereas if you take that pain and transmute it into a learning, a lesson, and point of soul evolution and growth, then you transfer the power to yourself. You now use this very painful incident and grow from it, learn from it and evolve from it. That is the only time you can truly forgive. Forgiveness is about releasing the pain and taking the lesson so that you can implement it into your life and be a better person because of it.

5. Receive Love

 

Learn how to receive. In my practice I come across this on a daily basis. People love to give of themselves, especially to those they love; but they do not allow themselves to receive. It is just as important to receive, as it is to give. Here is a very accurate muscle test for you to try:

Face north

Say yes. Your body will naturally lean forward. If you are not moving             drink a glass of water and try it again.

Now say no. Your body will start moving backwards.

Say My name is (your name) your body will start moving forward for yes.

Say My name is (make up a name) your body will start moving            backwards.

Now say: I know how to receive love

Then say: I know how to give love within healthy boundaries

If you move forward you are ok and you are balanced. If you test no, then     just practice the tips I gave above and you will find that your beliefs will      change as well.

Remember that making positive changes in your life is a decision, just like everything else. Take these tips and implement them in your life and you will see very obvious changes in a short amount of time. The key is to stick to it. Old patterns are not difficult to change, provided that you are committed and dedicated to the positive changes that are about to happen. We can all use more positivism in our lives.

Lessons learned from taking a journey on self-awareness

I unequivocally state that the only way to true happiness is learning how to accept yourself fully, which means the good, the bad and the ugly.  There is really no other path.  One’s happiness can never be found outside of the self.  It is not in religion, it is most definitely not in a significant other, nor is it in financial freedom or even your dream job.  All the answers and all the happiness you can generate for yourself lies only within you.  Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for religion or anything that connects you to the Divine, but to see religion as your redemption is putting the responsibility outside of you.  It is just the same as saying, finding the perfect partner is the answer, it is not, but it would be nice to have a great partner.  Operative word there is partner, not someone that you expect to bring happiness in your life and fill a hole that you yourself created.  Self-awareness, Self-love, Self-acceptance are really the only ways towards achieving wholeness, happiness, positivity and tranquility in your life.  Here are some lessons I have learned, and there are more that I am continuing to learn.

It is always about you

Everything that happens in your life is created energetically by you. The universe is a mirror of what is going on in your life.  If you find yourself irritated at someone, ask yourself this question:  What about this person is irritating me?  The answer is 100% of the time something within you or something that is present within you that you refuse to accept. This is true for close, intimate relationships but also for casual encounters.  You will find that the greatest irritants in your life are actually people who are your greatest teachers.  Adjust, fix, accept what you are not acknowledging within you (this is why it irritates you in the first place), then you will find that the action of the other no longer bother you.

We are our own worst judge

Taking from the lessons learned in No. 1, note the number of times you judge others during the day.  If you find that you have stopped judging others, hats off to you, because this means that you have stopped judging yourself and that you have already achieved self-acceptance in your life.  If you realistically and without judging your thoughts and actions, just make a mental rundown of how many times you said something negative about another person.  Whether it is their manner of speaking or manner of dress or even just their social media posts.  Whenever you judge another, this is an alarm bell to tell you to stop judging yourself.  The same goes for people who get irritated at others who judge.  It means you judge yourself a lot too.  When you stop judging yourself even those who judge others will not bother you because you just see it as a fact, without judgment and without pure neutrality.

We are beings of shadow and light

Just as you would stay away from someone super toxic and super negative, you  ought to stay away from those overly positive people who pretend they are perfection personified.  True spiritual beings, teachers, seekers, and practitioners  know and accept both their shadow side and their amazing positive side.  You are all that, shadow and light.  To ignore your shadow is to deny a part of you.  You need to acknowledge your shadow, know what triggers it and allow yourself to experience emotions such as anger, sadness, melancholy etc., because this is part of your human existence.  Being happy doesn’t mean you will never be sad again, or that you are skipping through life, it just means that your are able to accept everything about you.  These are not negative emotions, they are real emotions that are part of your being.  Learn to be mindful of these emotions so that you can experience them when necessary but go beyond them and focus on your light because you realize that the shadow is only temporary.  To deny your shadow will make it fight to live and it will try to surface so that you can acknowledge it.  Accepting your shadow will trigger temporary shadow responses but will not try to take you over because you have embraced your light.

Mind your own business

You have all the power, resources, capabilities and abilities to change anything about yourself that no longer serves you.  You have zero power to change another human being, including your own children.  This journey of self-awareness is about you and only you.  Not because you are selfish but because you understand the need to be whole in order to fully give. Everything and everyone in your life is a mirror of your inner relationship with yourself.  See everything as an opportunity towards self-acceptance.  What is it about me that I need to accept today?  Note, that I am not saying what is it about me that I need to fix or change?  That point of view comes from a perception of lack.  There is no lack, there is only acceptance.  You are not flawed, you can adjust and enhance but there really is nothing to fix because you are not broken.  It is simply rewiring so that you accept who you are, which means recognizing and acknowledging everything that is good about you and adjusting what no longer serves you and accepting what is not so nice about you as part of who you are that you can tweak accordingly.  It may sound like wordplay but that’s exactly what it is, it is all in the phrasing.  If you speak, think and act in the positive you will draw the same towards you.

Like will always attract like

I’ve written about this many times.  Just remember this law.  When you learn how to accept yourself, you will have zero drama in life. That’s a major reason right there.  You will also experience love, acceptance, trust and openness like you have never experienced or felt before.  You will easily and effortlessly accept others for who they are, because you have already done this for yourself.  You will look through anything or anyone you have ever judged before, including yourself.  You become neutral.  This is happiness.  Where nothing affects you, and when it does you just adjust yourself because you know now that this is a part of you that you need to address.  You just become you… the best version of you.

Angels Among Us

It is really life changing when you come to realize that angels are so easy to reach, feel, communicate with and that they are only more than happy to assist us when called. What I like most about working with angels is that they are always positive. They will never tell you what to do, but they are there to guide you, protect you and shower you with unconditional love.

Here are some tips to help you communicate with your angels:

1. ASK

You need to ask for their help, advice, guidance and presence in your life. Although, your guardian angel or angels are always with you, they never interfere with your free will. If you want your angels to communicate with you, intention is the literal key. Ask for them to reach out to you, ask for their help, ask them to guide you and they will make their presence known to you. They have no free will and act completely through God’s commands. Angels that assist you are acting on God’s orders.

2. AWARENESS

Once you have asked or invited the angels to come into your life and communicate with you be aware and conscious of synchronicities. I like to think of synchronicities in my life as the angels’ way of saying hi. Angels communicate in many ways. Lyrics to a song that just suddenly pops into your head or a song playing on the radio that seems to be speaking directly to you, is one way they communicate. They can give you advice through a friend’s pep talk or even the theme of a movie you are watching, sometimes it’s a line in a novel you are reading.   In other words, angels come to you in many ways. Once you invite them in, they will find a way, it is up to you to be aware of these messages. They will not appear from the sky with thunder and lighting, that’s for sure. The most common way angels speak to you are through repetitive number sequences. 11:11 is the most common, but numbers like 777, 88, 999, 0 or even 000 are signs that your angel is trying to communicate with you. You can Google angel numbers by Doreen Virtue to get their meanings.

3. LISTEN

A lot of us pray but talking to God, we talk and talk and talk….. Here’s the trick, be still, stay silent and listen.   When an angel number appears you can look it up but more importantly listen and stay still for a message with come to you. Messages from the angels again are not gongs and cymbals, they are subtle thoughts and higher feelings. They come in the form of knowing, understanding and positive feelings. Fear, negativity, messages of doom etc are not angelic messages. Nor are they from an evil source. Negativity is your ego and fear interfering with your enlightenment. Once you learn how to get rid of negative chatter, the angels are given the freedom to enlighten you with messages for your higher purpose and higher good.

4. TRUST

Know that the universe works in ways we cannot even imagine. Sometimes you will see a feather come out of no where. A butterfly suddenly flies in front of you. You get this AHA moment, you feel secure and just know all will be fine. That is what trusting in your angels feels like. They come in many forms, feathers, butterflies, even babies. Believe or not, your most irritating co-worker or family member is more often than not being used by your angels to teach you a life lesson. Trust that this is the divine working in your life.

5. LOVE

Angels speak one language and that is the language of love. So if you come from love, you will be responded to with love. Know that this is so for God will only send you love. Fear and negativity are products of our own mind. Come from love and you will receive love.

Namaste

Living today as if it were your Present

I write this now because one of the most difficult things for me to do is not to worry about the future. I worry about the future constantly that I forget about the present. A client of mine once asked me to write an article on how to get rid of worry. It was then that I realized that I did not know how. Worrying was so part and parcel of my day to day mind game that I did not even realize that I was worrying or in a state of worry by default. I know that were not to sweat the small stuff, true; but what about the big stuff. It is easy to say do not worry when it comes to day to day trivialities but what about telling a mother to stop worrying about her child. Or how do you not worry about your dwindling bank account and there are still no job offers after several months of trying. How do you not worry about your future? Here are some tips that have helped me out and I hope will help you too.

The law of like attracts like

If ever there was a deterrent to worry, this would be it.

One of the better known energetic laws of the universe is the law of attraction, the main gist of it is that like attracts like. As such, if you are fearful and live in constant fear of something, it actually happens to you because you attract it. Hypochondriacs (those who fear illness) are sick a lot. Those that fear losing, fail a lot. Those that worry carry the same energetic frequency as fear. Worry about something enough, you will actually cause it to happen. Worry that you will never have enough and you won’t.

Counter worry with positive thoughts. If you are going to focus your energy on worrying try focusing it on the opposite of what you are worrying about. For instance, you are worrying about not having enough cash to pay for your medical insurance. Rather than worry about not having enough cash, focus your attention on how to raise the cash between now and the time your premiums are due. Or if you worry constantly about your son driving home at night when he is out. Get him to use a car service like Uber so that you are assured he will get home safely even if he has a bit too much to drink. Focus on the positive solutions rather than worry about the problem.

Gratitude

A great way to retrain your brain to focus on the positive instead of worrying or pondering on the negative is gratitude and appreciation. I hear a lot of people complaining about their jobs, my answer is always be thankful you have one. You will never know the value of something until it is taken away from you. So next time you complain, you might want to think of what will happen if that person or opportunity were not in your life. Appreciate what you have and do not dwell on what you don’t have. For instance, if your meralco bill makes you cry each month, find a way to cut down on your electric costs, but also when you write the check and pay the bill say thank you that you have enough money to cover the bill and that you can have the luxury of electricity. Because these little luxuries are taken for granted more often than they are appreciated. You never really think about our water and electricity at home until a typhoon comes and deprives you of it for a couple of days and then it becomes the most important thing in your life.

What you are grateful for and appreciate will multiply just as what you are worried about will multiply. So find a way, as difficult as it may seem sometimes, to look at what you appreciate and are grateful for. It will make you a much happier person and believe me, it will also attract into your life, more of what you are appreciating or better.

You only have today

       Think of today as your gift, that’s why it is called the present. It is not easy, I know that, I’m the first person to have difficulty with this. So I consciously make a decision everyday that what I do today, what I do now, what I accomplish today is what matters. Not tomorrow. Tomorrow may never happen but what I do today can make a difference in my life an another person’s life. I pay the bills I can pay today and create a plan of how I can pay my future bills. Knowing that my plan is sound and in place I work each day and focus on each day, literally one day at a time in order to get the stress out, the worry and anxiety out. Take care of today and then tomorrow will follow. It is a mind set and a discipline that requires commitment and determination. Somehow our brains have been defaulted to negativism and worry. It is up to us to rewire our brains towards positive thinking in the now.

Namaste

A Morning Detox Everyone Should Try

There is so much more to cilantro than just an herb used for cooking. Cilantro is also known as coriander or wan soy. Taking a shot glass of cilantro juice in the morning is a highly potent detoxing drink. Here’s how it works:

1. Releases harmful heavy metals from the body. We may not realize this, but even the fish we eat contains mercury. When consumed as a juice (or you can just eat is straight), it releases a compound that releases heavy metals from your tissues.
2. It is very high in anti-oxidants which helps in rebuilding collagen and elastin in your skin which makes it a great anti-aging elixir. It is also anti-carcinogenic.
3. It aids in the digestive process. And it also contains Calcium. Plus cholesterol lowering qualities.
4. Studies have shown, that it is beneficial to diabetic patients by aiding in the production of insulin
5. Coriander has anti-inflammatory properties plus it contains Omega 3 and Omega 6 fatty acids
6. It also contains antimicrobial properties that can prevent fungal, bacterial and yeast infections.

Cilantro juice is easy to make, it isn’t expensive and it is readily available in the Philippines. Just take a handful of leaves, about 1/3 of a cup, put it in a blender with 1/3 cup of water and drink it straight. You can also add cilantro leaves to your regular juicing or smoothie recipes. There are people though who do not like the taste of cilantro however, those who do will find this juice rather pleasing and a great morning stimulant to start off your day. It also contains chlorophyll which not only detoxes the body but makes you smell good too. Nature heals, and as we move towards natural healing remedies, eating vegetables and fruit is nature’s way of keeping you healthy.

Namaste

(source: juicing-for-health.com)

Lavender Essential Oil

When it comes to using essential oils, Lavender is on the top of my list. Not only does it smell heavenly, it also has a gamut of uses that encompasses everything from stress relief to healing burns.   It is always a good idea to have Lavender Essential Oil handy, however, choosing the right quality is the most important consideration.

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There is a big difference in the healing properties of essential oils vs. fragrance oils. Fragrance oils, besides being cheaper, provide you with just that, fragrance and nothing else. They are great for infusing a scent in a large room for example just to give it a nice wisp of smell. However, fragrance oils do not have healing qualities.

Here is what the label should contain: The words, pure, therapeutic grade, pharmaceutical grade, should precede the words essential oil. The word essential is not sufficient to determine the quality of the oil because it used so freely and some retailers put essential oil on bottles that simply contain fragrance oil.

The word organic may also be misleading because some fragrance oils are organic but are not essential oils. So look for pure, organic, therapeutic grade essential oils so that you are using something pure and healing.

Benefits

Essential oils don’t come cheap, but you only use a small amount at a time. One drop of lavender oil is sufficient to put on your temples of your head and the back of your neck to release stress and calm you down.

Lavender oil can also be used with your lotions, creams and coconut oil. Used in many skin care products, Lavender oil is relaxing, anti-inflammatory and anti bacterial. It gives you smoother and healthier skin. Even those with skin conditions can usually tolerate Lavender Oil, but remember to do a spot test first or dilute for highly sensitive skin. 5 to 6 drops on your favorite shampoo will even ease dry scalp and dandruff.

Lavender oil is also very mild and one of the few essential oils that you can apply directly to the skin without dilution with carrier oils. It immediately soothes burns, relieves insect bites and can even shrink a pimple overnight.

Spray on your pillows and sheets before sleeping for a restful night’s sleep and amazingly scented beddings. You can even add a drop or two on the spray water bottle you use for ironing for lightly scenting your clothes.

Recipes

Lavender Spray

20 drops of Lavender oil

50 ml water

Put this in a spray bottle and you can use it as an air freshener, bed spray, room spray and to spray on your clothes while ironing. It can even be used as a face spritzer or toner. Makes for a safe, natural and effective anti-bug spray for you and your children.

Skin Elixir

5 drops of Lavender oil

10 ml carrier oil (use grapeseed oil, almond oil or virgin coconut oil)

pump bottle or spray bottle

You can use this as an after bath moisturizer or it can substitute for those expensive night creams. Use as a massage oil. You can even massage this on a baby’s feet to give them a good night’s sleep. This works on eczema and psoriasis in some cases.

Diffuse

You can diffuse lavender oil and water in a burner and allow the scent to permeate your bedroom or any room at home giving you all the aromatherapy benefits of the oil which includes feelings of calmness and relaxation.

Finally, and this is where you really need to be sure that your essential oil is therapeutic grade, add a drop to a cup of hot water and you get lavender tea that is perfect right before bedtime. You can even add a drop of lavender in lemon water as a morning detox ritual.

Enjoy the many uses of this healing gift from nature.

6 Raw Foodists Over 50 That Look Decades Younger

Another VERY VERY VERY good reason to go raw….

Conscious Nourishment

Raw Veganism:The Fountain of Youth? Or perhaps it’s the cooked food that’s aging the average person prematurely. In any case, the following people have truly inspired me to continue my raw vegan journey for life! Their age and appearance speak volumes of how perfectly aligned the living foods lifestyle is for the human body. It is an undeniable fact that our appearance on the outside, especially after our mid years, is clear reflection of our internal health.

Meet 6 inspiring raw foodists with an appearance that will trample on any skepticism or doubt about the living foods movement:

1. Storm Talifero, 64
Storm Talifero is one of the oldest and most successful long-term 100% raw vegans in the movement today. He has been raw for over 42 years, and at age 64 he looks more like he is in his 30’s or 40’s. He’s an athlete, author, illustrator, architect…

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How to communicate with angels

It is really life-changing when you realize that angels are so easy to reach, feel and communicate with, and that they are only more than happy to assist us whenever needed.
What I like most about working with angels is that they are always positive. They will never tell you what to do, but they are there to guide you, protect you and shower you with unconditional love.
Here are some tips to help you communicate with your angels:
Ask
You need to ask for their help, advice, guidance and presence in your life. Although your guardian angel or angels are always with you, they never interfere with your free will. If you want your angels to communicate with you, intention is the literal key.
Ask for them to reach out to you, ask for their help, ask them to guide you and they will make their presence known. They have no free will and act completely through God’s commands. Angels that assist you are acting on God’s orders.
Be aware
Once you have asked or invited the angels to come into your life and communicate with you, be aware and conscious of synchronicities. I like to think of synchronicities in my life as the angels’ way of saying hi.
Angels communicate in many ways. Lyrics to a song that just suddenly pop into your head, or a song playing on the radio that seems to be speaking directly to you, is one way they communicate.
They can give you advice through a friend’s pep talk or even the theme of a movie you are watching. Or sometimes it’s a line in a novel you are reading. In other words, angels come to you in many ways; it is up to you to be aware of these messages.

They will not appear from the sky with thunder and lighting, that’s for sure. The most common way angels speak to you are through repetitive number sequences. The most common is 11:11, but numbers like 777, 88, 999, 0 or even 000 are signs that your angel is trying to communicate with you. You can Google angel numbers by Doreen Virtue to get their meanings.

Listen
We pray to God by talking, but here’s the trick—be still, stay silent and listen. When an angel number appears, you can look it up, but more importantly listen and stay still, for a message will come to you.
Messages from the angels are not done with gongs and cymbals, they are subtle thoughts and higher feelings. They come in the form of knowing, understanding and positive feelings.
Fear, negativity, messages of doom, etc., are not angelic messages. Nor are they from an evil source. Negativity is your ego and fear interfering with your enlightenment.
Once you learn how to get rid of negative chatter, the angels are given the freedom to enlighten you with messages for a higher purpose.
Trust
Know that the universe works in ways we cannot even imagine. Sometimes you will see a feather come out of nowhere. A butterfly suddenly flies in front of you.
You get this “aha” moment, you feel secure and just know all will be fine. That is what trusting in your angels feels like. They come in many forms, feathers, butterflies, even babies. Believe or not, your most irritating coworker or family member is more often than not being used by your angels to teach you a life lesson. Trust that this is the divine working in your life.
Love
Angels speak one language, and that is the language of love. So, if you come from love, you will be responded to with love. Know that this is so, for God will send you only love. Fear and negativity are products of our own mind. Come from love and you will receive love.
For more information on my next “Channeling Your Angels” class, e-mail tina.healingcircle@gmail.com.

Read more: http://lifestyle.inquirer.net/165963/how-to-communicate-with-angels

Do you know how to forgive

Do you know how to forgive

Attaching my article which was published by The Philippine Daily Inquirer….

When angels fall

We have all been hurt in one way or another by someone with a dysfunctional personality. The reason I am writing this is to heal from the hurt and pain caused by highly dysfunctional people that I have loved and cared for and hopefully aid in your healing as well.

We are all dysfunctional. Let me start by saying that.  We are all inherently dysfunctional because we are human beings. One of our biggest challenges in life is to rise above our dysfunctional behavior.  We call them issues, we call them life challenges, we call them “may pinagdadaanan” (going through something is the closest English translation).

Hence, the spiritual journey.  Spirituality, at least in my book, is really a journey towards the self in order to heal the issues that confront us as human beings.  If we are spiritual beings having a human existence then I guess it goes without saying that it is really part of our human mission to transcend or heal our dysfunctional nature in order for our souls to evolve.  We can never truly eradicate our issues for that is what being human is all about. Nonetheless, leading a spiritual life would mean cleaning out as many cobwebs as you can in order to realize and enjoy our own divinity.

Having said that, there are those souls who choose to just stay stagnant.  Those who choose not to deal with their issues.  I am labeling for the purposes of explaining myself so I ask to be excused for generalizing.  Personality disorders, sociopaths, psychopaths, or just toxic people in general are those whom I refer to as fallen angels.

We have all experienced at least one in our lives.  Sometimes we are related to them, sometimes they are friends, some we even fall in love with.  The long and short of it is that a relationship with them leaves us broken.  The complete loss of self-esteem from abuse whether physical or emotional is just one of the most damaging effects we experience.  Shock and trauma becomes stored in the soul’s memory bank and as a result fear becomes our protection.  If you know what this feels like, you have been with a fallen angel.

I call them fallen angels because when we entered into a relationship with them we saw the good.  It would not be surprising that even though you are no longer in a relationship with this person (even though you are related) you will still see the good when you have healed and encounter them again.  They are just like you and I.  After all, are not all souls divine? Everyone by their very essence is good.  The only difference is that highly dysfunctional people have not really taken accountability or responsibility for their lives.

It really is about personality or attitude.  If we go under the presumption that everything is a choice, then wouldn’t altering dysfunctional behavior be a choice as well.  These, albeit beautiful souls, are trapped in fear and they do make a choice. They choose to give into the fear and choose to blame others.  Highly dysfunctional souls will never take accountability for their actions, feelings and reactions.  I sometimes refer to this as the: I’m sorry but it’s your fault syndrome.

So how do you heal from this other than the usual forgive yourself, forgive them and move forward.  Sure those are the first steps. I’m talking about what you can do when you have already done all of the above, but your heart is still enveloped in the fear called protection.

Healing fear  

The fear I am talking about here is the fear that runs so deep within us we do not even see it, feel it nor realize that it is there.  We bury it so deep because our hurts are so deep.  It is called the fear of protection from heartache or the fear of getting hurt.  Once we are broken, the pain we feel is so traumatic that our subconscious will radically protect our soul.

Fear, as I mentioned in an earlier post, is the great paralyzer.  But once the fear is stored so far within our subconscious, it becomes a little bit more difficult to heal because we do not even know that it is there. Just realize that if there is a deep deep deep seeded fear, your unconscious holds on to it to protect you from further pain. It also serves to protect you from the possibility of future pain. As a result, all your relationships will be affected. In order for you to move forward, that fear needs to be healed, and as with all healings, we need to face our fears and our issues in order to heal them.

How do we do this when it is embedded so deeply within our subconscious?  How do we do this when it so obviously serves us?  It protects us, it shields us from further pain.  So how do we remove it?    

Divine Guidance

This is where Divine Guidance comes in.  I stumbled upon a facebook poster that stated that life is a balance of when to let go and when to hold on.  The same can be said for healing relationships.

When you get to a point of frustration that is the point wherein these subconscious fears will slowly come into the surface.  See, as irritating as frustration is, it is the greatest indication that you are ready to let go.  So bless it, welcome it and let the Divine take over. Now this is where Divine healing and guidance work their magic. Because when you let go, you let a greater power take over.  Leave it to the Universe as it will never disappoint.

The Divine heals each individual differently and in a way that is so individualized for each person. Mine came in a form of a dream and then thereafter I used theta healing and reiki to channel Divine Healing for myself.  However, it was the dream that brought it all up to the surface.  I waited for 2 months.  I went through 2 months of being in a state of pure utterly irritating frustration. The lesson here is about letting go. My million dollar question was: How do you let go?  And the answer is, you can’t simply say ok, today I let go.  It comes when you are ready, it comes when your subconscious can let go of it.

It begins with intent.  Do not underestimate the power of intent.  Intent is what triggers the Universe into action.  It activates Divine Intervention, it sets the laws of spirituality into motion. Remember that although we cannot change those fallen angels that have come into our lives, we can change ourselves.  We have the power to heal from the pain, if we allow it.  And when the magic happens we can bless them and let them go with gratitude for it is through them that we evolve into the very beings we are now.

But this cannot be forced. We have all experienced pain from these souls that left wounds in us, but we have a choice.  We can choose to live our lives protected by fear or we can choose to heal so that we can claim our Divine Right to happiness and harmonious relationships.  For the coming new year, let us release the fear of being hurt again and transform this into healing.

We take responsibility for our own miracles and release those who have hurt us from ever affecting us again.  That’s what we do with fallen angels, we release them from our space, we don’t try to change them, we break free from them—we change ourselves.

Namaste!